Since I am not the first and last one going through this happy and challenging season, I want to share my personal experience and scriptural solutions that encourages me and can help you.
Pregnancy does not give me an excuse to be erratic
I must admit that this second child has really done a number on me (smile).
· All day sickness
· Gaining over 20 pounds in my first trimester (although I can hardly eat)
· Restless and sleepless nights
Sex has become the last thing on my list
My body has changed for the better with more defined hips and noticeable boobs, which makes my husband even more attracted to me. The thought of sex, I must admit makes me feel sick for some reason and disinterested. I honestly feel the right to avoid sex, because of pregnancy. Is this wrong? God’s answer to me was YES, it is wrong. Why? Because I am being selfish and self-centered and not considerate of my husband’s feelings.
Enjoy Pregnancy and ALL It Brings
I have 17 weeks left in my pregnancy and realized I have not been enjoying life. Being caught up in the everyday hassles of life, dealing with an extended morning sickness and working over 60 hours a week caused me to lose focus on what really matters. Many women try to get pregnant and are unable to because of medical challenges and I ignored the blessing God has given to me. Since that realization, I started taking more time for myself, embracing the comments from others about my glowing skin and enjoying being catered too by strangers.
Communicate with your husband
Communication to me just means having honest dialogue. I have a tendency to hold everything in and not taking the time to let my husband know exactly how I feel. My introvert approach to conflict has proven to be a disaster. I have learned two things in the last six months:
1. My husband cannot read my mind (especially now that I’m pregnant)
2. Avoid using the words “Never” and “always.”
If you are pregnant, now someone who is pregnant or preparing for pregnancy, I hope the information provided in this post, saves you the pain and confusion I encountered. The first five months of pregnancy has been a test of faith but through scriptural help, and inward observations, my marriage is doing much better. I am looking forward to weekly link ups this week.