The news about my second pregnancy came as a surprise to both my husband and I but we became more and more excited as months passed. Now six months in, we are anticipating the arrival of little Anna, but I must admit our marriage has suffered. Why? My erratic behavior, low libido and exhaustion is some of the blame. Since I am not the first and last one going through this happy and challenging season, I want to share my personal experience and scriptural solutions that encourages me and can help you.
Pregnancy does not give me an excuse to be erratic
I
must admit that this second child has really done a number on me (smile).
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All day sickness
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Gaining over 20 pounds in my first trimester
(although I can hardly eat)
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Restless and sleepless nights
Scripture Solution
Sex has become the last thing on my list
My body has changed for the better with more
defined hips and noticeable boobs, which makes my husband even more attracted
to me. The thought of sex, I must admit makes me feel sick for some reason and
disinterested. I honestly feel the right to avoid sex, because of pregnancy. Is
this wrong? God’s answer to me was YES, it is wrong. Why? Because I am being
selfish and self-centered and not considerate of my husband’s feelings.
Scripture Solution
Enjoy Pregnancy and ALL It Brings
I have 17 weeks left in my pregnancy and
realized I have not been enjoying life. Being caught up in the everyday hassles
of life, dealing with an extended morning sickness and working over 60 hours a
week caused me to lose focus on what really matters. Many women try to get
pregnant and are unable to because of medical challenges and I ignored the
blessing God has given to me. Since that realization, I started taking more time
for myself, embracing the comments from others about my glowing skin and
enjoying being catered too by strangers.
Scripture Solution
Communicate with your husband
Communication to me just means having honest
dialogue. I have a tendency to hold everything in and not taking the time to
let my husband know exactly how I feel. My introvert approach to conflict has
proven to be a disaster. I have learned two things in the last six months:
1.
My husband cannot read my mind (especially now
that I’m pregnant)
2.
Avoid using the words “Never” and “always.”
If you are pregnant, now someone who is pregnant or
preparing for pregnancy, I hope the information provided in this post, saves
you the pain and confusion I encountered. The first five months of pregnancy has
been a test of faith but through scriptural help, and inward observations, my
marriage is doing much better. I am looking forward to weekly link ups this week.
Scripture Solution
I love your honesty and spirit of confession. I think these are thoughts and problems that nearly any pregnant woman has had. Focusing on the scripture is a great way to bring ourselves back in line!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for stopping by Kevin, I look forward to staying connected.
DeleteEach pregnancy seems to bring out a different self. Blessings to you for not being centered on yourself, loving on your husband, and being strong enough to share your weakness with others so they may be inspired to follow your example.
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DeleteThank you so so much for putting this beautiful and encouraging post together. I really needed to read this! I'm 25 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. Your words truly blessed me! Sharing it in my social media! thanks! Have a great day! :)
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Angie, thanks so much for stopping by. I am hopping over to your blog right now. Look forward to staying connected! Maybe we can compare notes as we end our pregnancies strong.
DeleteStill trying to recover from a second miscarriage (over three months ago) and all the things involved with it, I know pregnancy - or - not, can be hard on a marriage. Hope you and your husband keep working to make it a priority!
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