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Sunday, January 11, 2015

Keeping Your Marriage Intact During Pregnancy (Through Prayer and Action)


The news about my second pregnancy came as a surprise to both my husband and I but we became more and more excited as months passed. Now six months in, we are anticipating the arrival of little Anna, but I must admit our marriage has suffered. Why? My erratic behavior, low libido and exhaustion is some of the blame.  Since I am not the first and last one going through this happy and challenging season, I want to share my personal experience and scriptural solutions that encourages me and can help you.

Pregnancy does not give me an excuse to be erratic


 I must admit that this second child has really done a number on me (smile). 

·        All day sickness
·        Gaining over 20 pounds in my first trimester (although I can hardly eat)
·        Restless and sleepless nights

All these side effects to pregnancy has led to a disgruntled husband and many regrets on my part for my behavior.  

Scripture Solution

Sex has become the last thing on my list 

My body has changed for the better with more defined hips and noticeable boobs, which makes my husband even more attracted to me. The thought of sex, I must admit makes me feel sick for some reason and disinterested. I honestly feel the right to avoid sex, because of pregnancy. Is this wrong? God’s answer to me was YES, it is wrong. Why? Because I am being selfish and self-centered and not considerate of my husband’s feelings.

Scripture Solution


Enjoy Pregnancy and ALL It Brings

I have 17 weeks left in my pregnancy and realized I have not been enjoying life. Being caught up in the everyday hassles of life, dealing with an extended morning sickness and working over 60 hours a week caused me to lose focus on what really matters. Many women try to get pregnant and are unable to because of medical challenges and I ignored the blessing God has given to me. Since that realization, I started taking more time for myself, embracing the comments from others about my glowing skin and enjoying being catered too by strangers.


Scripture Solution

Communicate with your husband

Communication to me just means having honest dialogue. I have a tendency to hold everything in and not taking the time to let my husband know exactly how I feel. My introvert approach to conflict has proven to be a disaster. I have learned two things in the last six months:

1.      My husband cannot read my mind (especially now that I’m pregnant)
2.      Avoid using the words “Never” and “always.”

If you are pregnant, now someone who is pregnant or preparing for pregnancy, I hope the information provided in this post, saves you the pain and confusion I encountered. The first five months of pregnancy has been a test of faith but through scriptural help, and inward observations, my marriage is doing much better. I am looking forward to weekly link ups this week.

Scripture Solution


7 comments:

  1. I love your honesty and spirit of confession. I think these are thoughts and problems that nearly any pregnant woman has had. Focusing on the scripture is a great way to bring ourselves back in line!

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by Kevin, I look forward to staying connected.

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  2. Each pregnancy seems to bring out a different self. Blessings to you for not being centered on yourself, loving on your husband, and being strong enough to share your weakness with others so they may be inspired to follow your example.

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  3. Thank you so so much for putting this beautiful and encouraging post together. I really needed to read this! I'm 25 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. Your words truly blessed me! Sharing it in my social media! thanks! Have a great day! :)

    www.angiebenju.blogspot.com

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    1. Angie, thanks so much for stopping by. I am hopping over to your blog right now. Look forward to staying connected! Maybe we can compare notes as we end our pregnancies strong.

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  4. Still trying to recover from a second miscarriage (over three months ago) and all the things involved with it, I know pregnancy - or - not, can be hard on a marriage. Hope you and your husband keep working to make it a priority!

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